Cohabitation it is not an easy thing. It may make one of the two more difficult, but they definitely need concessions from both. Beyond the important things that have to do with living together, adopting new habits and coming to terms with sharing your space with another person, there is also the matter of shaping the space. Which may not be the most essential, but it can make or break a symbiosis.

  • Separate your personal decorative items gradually

Don’t be pressured to part with things that are yours. Even if it is about things of dubious aesthetics and utility. Do it, but gradually. Let him keep his desk (larger than your dining room) for a while longer. At some point he will see that you are not comfortable and will himself ask you to take it out of the apartment. You will see that the armchair of your student house no longer fits. So you too will part with her willingly and not forced.

  • Agree on a style and color palette from the start

Is he a minimalist while you prefer a slightly more boho mood in decoration? This is something you have to solve from scratch and find a golden ratio. Agreeing on the furniture, colors, design as you enter the house will also give you the freedom to make additions to your space. For which you will have no doubt if they will fit. Or if he will agree. Make sure not to overdo it with colors that would not be characterized as neutral, such as the pink (maximum of two objects so as not to attract attention). Finally, do not invest in furniture without his consent, but see that your purchases are limited to smaller additions.

  • Make the choice together for the biggest purchases

Larger markets are characterized as such because, on the one hand, they cost more. But also because you will have them for many years. But you have to make the right choice. Choose a washing machine that combines design, but also economy in consumption. A sofa that is of good quality and that you can clean. A mattress that will be comfortable for you to sleep on and will be good for your body. Even if it means spending a little more money.

  • Do your market research together and set a limit on how much you’ll spend

You’ve got the basics down, now it’s time for the details. If neither of you is inspired, consult a friend. Read magazines or take inspiration from Instagram together to come up with the final touches/additions to your space. Always based on the common taste, but also the money you have agreed.

The last piece of advice is to not forget throughout this difficult but enjoyable process why you got into this process in the first place. Remember that you love this person and that your relationship is above any differences in decor. Your priority should be your relationship and not whether the towel basket will be placed in the room or in the bathroom.