It is about the separation that occurs in the relationship of a couple after several years of relationship, marriage or cohabitation. They decide together to end their relationship not overnight, but because after years of living together, the problems could no longer be swept under the rug.

In the decade we are experiencing now and the one just before, there have been many studies regarding the relationship, marriage and the cohabitation of couples, and what has been observed is that one in four divorces usually occurs in couples aged 50 and over .

The reasons; They follow below.

  • They don’t grow up together

Generally, they choose to live a different life or daily life even though they are in the same family context. Somewhere here you will probably have already understood why a “grey divorce” does not arise from one day to the next.

They say that broken glass does not stick together again, and I will add somewhere here that if a glass has been broken repeatedly, then sooner or later no matter how much you try to “heal” it, it will remain forever broken.

In a way, small or even big cracks appear in relationships, which means that not all of them are visible from the beginning. And later a crash comes and smashes everything to pieces.

In addition, an underlying dissatisfaction can exist for a long time and arise through various events in everyday life. Often, a person and specifically usually women, very often feel that they have given up many things over the years in order to properly perform their role as partners and as mothers. They may also have put their careers on hold to raise their children as best they could. So something like this easily explains the one and most basic reason why someone feels like they lost a lot while their partner didn’t, even though they lived under the same roof.

  • The age factor

You will have come across it or maybe you have already experienced it. A big age difference that at the beginning of the relationship usually doesn’t seem like a big issue, usually turns out to be a big issue later on.

Humans naturally tend to go through various psychological and biological phases in our lives and this also depends on our age. In adolescence it is the first time that this happens to us and later it returns at the age of 40 just as strongly. So every time we experience such a situation, we seek to go back in time or re-experience what we experienced in our youth. A typical example is people who choose in their 40s or 50s to enter into a relationship with a younger person.

  • Darling, boring

The boredom factor we put it? It is equally important and crucial to whether a relationship will survive. Being with the same person 24 hours a day can lead to unbearable boredom and sometimes it doesn’t even take you trying. You work hard, maybe you have children, your career is constantly running but instead of stopping at something fast paced, you finally choose to stop being the attractive husband and the seductive wife. Good bad; The couple will judge it.

  • Money does not bring happiness, but it does bring peace

Financial difficulties and of course the extent to which they exist in the home and in the couple’s living, can become a serious reason to mark an end to a relationship. It also lurks the possibility that one of the two partners is wasteful, while the other makes more savings, or the possibility that proper management is not done together. The activities of the children, the costs of studies and all kinds of debt that will arise over the years, gnaw at the family budget and one morning when you both probably least expect it, there is the big outbreak that brings to the surface all kinds of financial issues.

  • Sex alone is not enough, as long as it exists

Sexual dissonance can become a big hoarseness as the years go by and of course hormonal changes are also responsible for this. Growing up, it is logical and next for couples to experience this problem as well, which if detected, the good thing is that there is a solution. It is enough that there is also a common will. Otherwise, I bet you already know the ending here.

Are there solutions to avoid divorces at these ages?

There are no key solutions, no, because every couple, every person and every case is different. On the other hand, a mental health specialist could provide the most appropriate solutions, as long as both of them want it.

Some tips that I would suggest to you, if you are in such a relationship, is to start giving priority to your relationship and immediately neutralize any possible threat. Don’t forget in everything how important it is to feel good about yourself externally and internally and of course to remind yourself that the share of responsibility in every issue that arises is not always an individual affair.

To speak, to express, to try. Say sorry and thank you. Try to be present for your person but especially for your higher self. Remember that dialogue is your “child” and this “child” is always in your relationship to bring you closer and not to distance you.