The feeling of lack of control is perhaps one of the most difficult and demanding paths that we often cross in our lives. Where there is a lack of control of course, you can supplement both mental and emotional as well as physical control.
Control of emotions, control of human relationships, control of our thoughts or reactions. Yes, unfortunately control now determines our daily lives. The unpredictable scares us. Accident terrifies us. We constantly feel an inner pressure to give meaning and interpretation to everything that happens in our lives.
Of course, this general paranoia intensified during the Covid-19 pandemic
And despite the fact that the situation seems more credible in recent months, this does not cease to rank the pandemic as a vague field that we can not interpret, understand and even control. In this case, of course, the lack of control seems to concern us all. Yes, it is human to worry about what is happening. However, most of the time everything that worries us is beyond our power.
So what can you do to deal with the uncertainty caused by anything you can’t control?
First of all, one of the most effective ways to calm down is to focus on what you can improve or change. It is very important to know what you can and cannot control. Do not try to control everything that happens around you, as this “habit” is a destructive trend that only fills you with anxiety and a sense of failure.
You have to accept that some things happen and will continue to happen beyond your power or against your will. Still, a highly liberating tip is to leave the past behind. The past is gone. You can not change it. But you can change the present. You can live in the present. You can create the ideal present. You can create your own reality to some degree. After all, life needs a small dose of imagination and madness. Yes, you can control some things or at least you can control the way you perceive them.
How to create a balance and regain control
- Make a note of what you can control, what you think you can control, and what you cannot control. Then discard anything you can’t control and focus on what you can change. Is it worth changing some things in your life or not? The decision is in your hands.
- Do you feel like you are losing control under certain circumstances? Under pressure do you behave differently from the one you would like? If you answered “yes” to the above questions, then all you have to do is learn to take a deep breath before behaving one by one in a certain situation. Even a few minutes of thinking will help you focus on the positive.
- If your lack of control causes you to panic, you can turn your attention to anything that fills you with positive energy.
- Yes, you may not be able to control everything. However, you can control the way you perceive the different situations in your life. Instead of shuddering at the idea of lack of control, focus on the general change in your attitude / mentality.
- Try to focus on the most positive results that an event can bring. Do not drown directly in the negativity of situations. Of course, sometimes it is inevitable, but even in the most difficult conditions there is always a little light.
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