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Do you sometimes sit on the floor in your room and cry because you’re sure that everyone you’ve ever met hates you?

your Okay Make sure all your friends secretly hate you and no one else tells you.

Maybe they read your WhatsApp message but didn’t reply right away, or their messages are shorter than usual?

Well, they clearly hate you…don’t they?

Wrong

This feeling is very common, most of us have been there.

Dr. Marian Trent, a clinical psychologist, said:

“When you experience your emotional and physical low point, you have lower self-esteem and are more vulnerable.

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“Feeling anxious and alone are normal feelings,” says Smriti Joshi, senior psychologist at Wysa.

“It can come from past experiences, like being kicked off the schoolyard or feeling isolated from your peers.”

“Social unrest is on the rise and technology could exacerbate it, as can the new work-from-home culture. Same emotional connection.

The nature of social media and the pressure to be “on” and in touch all the time can lead you to conclude that if your friends don’t reply to your messages quickly or see you having fun, they hate you. Smriti explains. . .

“Just like you, people have lives and they’re not always there for their friends,” he adds.

“Furthermore, as unique individuals, we have our own attachment styles and some of these styles can make us more vulnerable depending on how our loved ones react to us. There is a possibility

“If we don’t respond in a way that makes us feel loved and cared for, we may feel like we don’t care.”

How to deal with “dumping” anxiety

avoid seeking tranquility

Marianna explains that people who experience increased anxiety or symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) often have a hard time calming down.

“When you admit that you seek reassurance from others, it may be a sign that you need to calmly examine yourself and learn to trust yourself to control your abilities,” he said.

“This can happen when the relationship is controlling, or the harmful properties of gaslighting can creep in and affect your ability to calm yourself.

If you decide to contact your friend about their behavior, Smriti suggests avoiding confrontational language.

“Instead of saying things like ‘I obviously hate you,’ focus the discussion on how you feel,” she says.

“You can ask, ‘I feel like there’s some distance between us,’ or just ‘When can we meet again?’ I love walking with you.”

Try to catch these thoughts

Smriti also recommends taking time to think about yourself.

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“Think of a time when you had too much to do, struggled, or got so caught up in yourself that you spent less time with your friends or forgot to contact them.”

Is there another reason why the friendship changed?

Looking at other reasons why your friend might be off your radar can help you reframe your thoughts and dispel the belief that your friend hates you.

“It’s important to pay attention to what you think and what other people think and feel,” explains Smriti.

You should avoid projecting your worries and anxieties onto others.

“Sit down and think about your friendship expectations and how they will be met.

“Also, remember, your concern that your friend hates you is just an idea. You can give and release.

enjoy your company

“It’s also important to be emotionally independent, so that the absence of someone you love doesn’t trigger extreme thoughts of immediately hating them,” says Smriti.

“Our emotions are our own responsibility and it is important that we are able to examine ourselves and work on what makes us happy and brings us peace and a sense of accomplishment.”

This will boost your self-esteem and help you feel emotionally independent.

This is the key to being safer, more confident and happier. It also improves your perspective on relationships.

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