Will they let you go quietly? (Image: Getty/)

You’ve probably heard stories about quietly quitting when you’re doing the bare minimum at work.

The other side of the coin is to shoot silently.

This is the act of expelling an employee from the workplace. They receive little support, they are ignored, they give up and leave.

“This works really well for companies,” explains recruiting expert Bonnie Dillber in a LinkedIn post. “Ultimately, people will feel incompetent, isolated and undervalued, find new jobs and not have to deal with development plans or offer licenses.”

“Otherwise, lack of support will lead to severe performance degradation and you may be fired.”

Shooting in silence can take many forms, but at its core, it’s not about firing someone from active duty, it’s about using more covert tactics to eliminate them.

“A silent dismissal is when a leader tries to remove a person from a company, using tactics that lower self-esteem, destroy trust and burn employees to make the workplace highly toxic. Kara de Lange, international expert on burnout, founder and CEO of Softer Success, said:

This toxicity can be overt, such as workplace bullying, nasty power plays, inappropriate expressions of anger, or it can manifest in more subtle ways…the complete lack of positive feedback. Consider quitting your job without talking about your progress. meeting.

In the latter case, it is difficult to know if you are the victim of a silent shooting. Especially when combined with the classic case of gaslighting in the workplace.

To help you identify this treatment, Cara breaks down four common signs that it’s happening to you.

Your manager is constantly picking and criticizing your performance.

“In any job, it’s natural for management and leadership to provide important feedback that ultimately helps them improve their work and advance their careers,” says Cara. “Feedback helps us do our jobs better, learn from our mistakes, and move on.

‘Nope enough Feedback can actually hinder your career and inhibit your ability to hone your skills.

But if your manager constantly criticizes your work, picks on your little things, and finds ways to undermine your performance, it could be a sign that a toxic manager is trying to get you out of the company.

This level of highly critical feedback is the exact opposite of constructive feedback and will, over time, lower your self-esteem, cause you to doubt yourself, and lower your self-confidence. Second guess yourself.

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When was the last time you had a personal conversation with your boss? (Image: Getty Images/Mascot)

No raises, no promotions, no chat

Do you feel that no matter what you do, you are not recognized for what you do?

If you keep hitting your goals and don’t see the rewards, you might get kicked out.

“If you met your goals and mastered your role, but haven’t gotten a promotion or raise, it could be a sign that your boss is trying to quietly fire you,” says Cara.

“During 1:1 meetings with your manager, clearly define your responsibilities and goals for your role and discuss next steps when you meet or exceed them.”

Face-to-face meetings are ignored or canceled altogether

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However, if these opportunities to discuss your role are frequently ignored, it’s a way of saying that your manager doesn’t want to spend time with you.

“Companies that find underperforming or underperforming people actually spend more time getting them to where they need to be and making sure they get the right support.”

You always lead by example

“This is a relatively archaic approach, not to mention hostile labor practices, but some companies are setting examples for their employees,” Cara says. Maybe not, but have you ever seen a group email reminding your co-workers that don’t do what you did and realized you made a mistake?

“If this happens repeatedly, it could be a sign that your boss is trying to create a hostile work environment and quietly fire you.”

For example, when this happened to me, my manager called me and I always had a doctor’s appointment, I called and said I wasn’t in the office all the time.

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What to do if you think you are being quietly let go

If you choose any of the above signs, suspicion will begin. Now what?

“If management and the organization know these tactics exist and are aware of the consequences, then blame them,” Cara said. You run the risk of being unpopular as an employer and actually harming the work your company produces.” .

“But management may not be aware of the negative impact these practices are having on you, or may even be doing so, so what you can do is…”

keep a work journal

Write down exactly what made you feel unappreciated, left out, or rejected. This allows you to record what is happening.

Start keeping an incident log and write down how you feel. You can provide specific examples of these when you are ready to talk to your manager.

have a meeting with the boss

Work one on one and keep your boss out of your hands. You have the right to raise his concerns.

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“Good managers know that happy employees are good employees, and they work to fix these issues to make the work experience more positive.”

If nothing has changed, it’s time to go.

“If your arguments fall on deaf ears, it may be time to consider leaving,” explains Carla. .

“In fact, as I said before, when employees don’t live up to expectations, good organizations provide extra support and guidance to help them perform at their best.

Most importantly, it negatively affects the company, not the individual.

If they let you go quietly, giving up out loud is not “giving up.” Put your own well-being first and refuse treatment that makes you feel bad.

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