Maternal Status: I no longer accept attack disguised as advice

I am a very tolerant person, but very tolerant. And I’m the weirdo who likes to hear hunches. Mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, aunt and friends had —until last week—a lot of freedom to “advise” me on the upbringing of my daughters. The reason? There are guesses that help. The bad ones I separated and threw away.

Until I was surprised not by a hunch or constructive criticism, but by an attack disguised as advice. According to the person, my maternal self-esteem was low because I work while there are mothers who do not work have more time to spend with their children — and here we are not going to discuss how much work is done at home in raising children because I am lazy about this debate.

I’ve been called a boring, attached, romantic mother, out of reality, who doesn’t know how to educate and so many other things, but being called a mother with low self-esteem because she works was the most bizarre thing I’ve heard in 15 years of motherhood, ten of them in double dose.

If there’s one thing I have, it’s maternal self-esteem. I think I’m a great mother, although flawed and flawed like any other being. I give my life for my daughters. I study every detail of human behavior to try to deal with each phase of my girls, so yes, I think I’m prepared for the role I play.

As the person who said such a thing does not have children, I have decided that I will disregard any guesses from those who have no experience in the area. And it’s no use coming with the argument of being a mother of an animal or a mother of a plant. Don’t glue. Animal mother is the female animal of the animal species that gave birth to it.

On reflection, what I’ve decided not to accept anymore are attacks disguised as advice. How long will we be attacked just for being a mother? Have you noticed that anyone thinks he has the right to say what we should and how we should do it?

He arrives. There are many wanting to interfere in our motherhood and few helping. Pay attention to your surroundings: how many aunts and uncles – fakes or not – and other friends or relatives take their children for a walk, talk, listen to them or stay with them for you to rest?

There are few, for sure. Very few. In many cases, they are scarce or non-existent. So whoever does not help has no right to try to determine any step, no thought, no feeling and no action in his life.