All relationships, regardless of nature, should be characterized by love and devotion. There will be difficult times, but overcoming them is not a matter of individual effort.

While you feel that the love you have for each other is enough to overcome any difficulty, there are several other important qualities that should characterize you and your relationship.

With help from Fran Walfishpsychologist-relationship therapist and actress, who lives in Beverly Hills and has helped many couples keep their relationship healthy, My Domaine created the list of the most important traits that should characterize a relationship.

  • Sincerity: Being honest is not easy especially when your truth can be met with anger. But you will do well to overcome the fear of consequences since honesty is what will make you feel safe. Be sure to express what you feel and don’t keep it inside.
  • Flexibility: Not being flexible is a sign of weakness and the root of the problem many times. Being flexible about each other’s plans and opinions is an important element of successful communication.
  • Humour: This is the ideal treatment for problems that arise in a relationship. Humor can make a difficult situation less violent, lighten the tension of the moment and somehow resolve any misunderstanding more easily.
  • Looseness: And by that we mean don’t try (you or your partner) to be in control of everything. Don’t try to control the other person’s behavior because that will tire you out. When you relax you will see that everything happens at some point and the point is to feel good.
  • Optimism: Be in a good mood towards things and people until proven otherwise. If you are not to be trusted in a situation, sooner or later it will show. So don’t put yourself in a negative mood from the start and try to be optimistic.
  • Support: Since you were a child, you know that the support you receive from your environment is a strength for you. So if both of you are supportive of each other, you have secured a balance in the relationship that is hard to disturb. It is especially important when this is done in public.
  • Personal time: Personal time in a relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it is, is very important and necessary. A little or a lot depending on the circumstances is enough to give you the refreshment you need.
  • Diversity: Differences are more important than similarities in a relationship and especially between a couple. Healthy couples build their relationships on their differences. In this way, everyone’s strengths are utilized and weaknesses are annihilated.
  • No grudge: Don’t focus and especially don’t remember everything bad that has happened in the past. Anything bad is in the past and should stay there. Reliving it can only hurt you.
  • No comparison: Don’t compare in general (your life, your friends, your partner). This will only make you feel bad, but also the other person. Every person is different, as is every situation. So see how you and your relationships can improve day by day. Let the lives of others evolve.
  • Understanding: By this we mean not to pay so much attention to things that the other person does that might bother you. You can let them go like that. And you won’t get spoiled and the other person won’t feel bad. And if you calmly discuss it with him at another time, he might even stop it.
  • Respect: Happy couples or strong friendships are characterized by mutual respect. This means respecting each other’s time and space without making you feel uncomfortable. Do things for the other and feel good about yourself for this move. Ideally, the other side will reciprocate.