According to experts, infidelity is a problem expected to appear in one in five marriages. The 20% figure is significant, and many are wondering how to deal with this situation.

As relationships evolve over time and face various obstacles, the question that arises is whether it’s worth giving a second chance or whether to end the relationship and start something new.

This issue has recently been brought into the public debate due to the documentary about Beckham and the difficult time David experienced with Victoria. As she was in England and he in Madrid, the public saw them as a couple falling apart over his assistant, Rebecca Loos.

“I can’t explain how hard it was. And how it affected us. It was the hardest time, because we felt like the whole world was against us. And also, we were against each other,” Victoria said during the documentary. However, the Beckhams seem to have managed to successfully manage this difficult period in their lives.

But what do relationship experts say on the matter? Can a relationship recover after a period of infidelity? Dr. Aileen Alegado, clinical psychologist and director of Mindset Consulting, provides her perspective on the various issues that arise regarding infidelity in relationships.

According to Dr. Alegado it doesn’t matter how many times a couple will clash, but how effectively they will solve their problems and fix what is needed. This is her answer to this crucial question. And he adds about it:

“No one is perfect and we can all make mistakes. How we deal with them is what matters in every relationship. So yes, having an extramarital affair can disrupt trust in your marriage and cause fights that can change your life. But if a couple knows how to manage such conflicts, they have a better chance of resolving their problems.”

She also says that for a couple to overcome a breakup: “They have to rebuild trust with each other over time. Couples also need to want to work, which means communicating, sharing feelings, and having difficult conversations. It is not a simple solution and rebuilding trust can take years. It takes dedication to do something like that.”

For couples who find it difficult to overcome an infidelity – which is completely reasonable – she says: “Sometimes it’s also difficult for the one who cheated on the other to see him again in a different way. It takes time.”

Ending Dr. Alegado answered the eternal question of “Can you get over an infidelity if you don’t forgive it?”, saying characteristically: “Staying angry with the other person can lead to resentment and thus cause problems in the relationship. In the long run, you can’t get over an infidelity if you don’t forgive it. Forgiveness or understanding of those who led to this behavior is critical.”