I do not know anyone who does not want to be happy. But happiness has challenges and needs our help. Other times we try to think positively and focus on whatever is good.
But happiness does not have to come only with something like this and it is not something we can get “extortionately”.
In addition to doing things to lift our spirits and keep our emotions positive, but also to give meaning to what we do, it is very important to understand that we should not base our happiness on external factors. We must not do things to please those around us, we must do things because they fill us.
Because they make us feel good. We should also not expect others to do things that will make us feel good. Of course we want those around us to make beautiful moves for us, but we should not base our happiness on that. The less we expect from others and the less we do in anticipation of an outside reward, the less we get hurt and the more we do for ourselves. We operate more autonomously and are closer and closer to our true selves.
It is interesting to mention a study published in The Journal Of Positive Psychology on the importance of autonomy.
As stated by psychologists Richard Ryan and Edward Deci, autonomy refers to the will, that is, “having the experience of choice”. [και] applauding one’s actions at the highest level of reflection. “
This means that you are able to make decisions based on inherent motivation (ie to do something because you enjoy it) and not externally (ie because you expect a reward from a third party).
What the researchers did was ask 68 participants to answer questions about what they did at different times of the day. The questions concerned areas such as an activity they were engaged in, whether the individual chose it on their own or simply had to do it (autonomy) and the effect it had on them. The questionnaire also assessed the level of their involvement in the activity and how important it was. When they completed these questions six times a day for a week, they were also asked to answer questions about their life satisfaction.
The results were unquestionable: the level of autonomy that the participants had had a significant impact on their commitment, importance, positive emotion and mood.
However, while their emotion and mood continued to increase with autonomy, the benefits of autonomy in terms of commitment and importance were only mediocre, suggesting that once people find the activity they are doing interesting and satisfying, External motivation (such as making money at work) is not so important.
In short, autonomy can have a big impact on our overall happiness and well-being – but in cases where we have to do something (such as work), having a moderate degree of intrinsic motivation (eg enjoying what we do) ) will have the desired effect.
This study confirms what we said above. That is, how important it is to seek to do things that we find interesting and that make us happy, instead of things that we will receive any external reward.
READ MORE
Small ways to cultivate a relationship, according to the expert
Zodiac signs: The weekly forecasts from February 28 to March 6
www.savoirville.gr
Follow Skai.gr on Google News
and be the first to know all the news
_142630.jpg?fit=%2C&ssl=1)
