Raising children is a blessing, it is a joy but it is also one of the most difficult jobs in the world.
And it is so difficult because it makes you understand that you are no longer responsible only for yourself, but also for another creature that you have to nurture as best you can.
By this I do not only mean to offer him food, water, shelter a safe environment, which are basic necessities of survival, I am also talking about the mental upbringing of the child.
The one that will later give your child (but also you) the confidence and security that he can cope with any difficulty in life.
Being a parent requires you to learn with your child, to develop with him / her and to want to become not only a better parent, but also a human being.
Raising children is therefore one of the most difficult but satisfying jobs in the world – and one for which you may feel less prepared.
Strengthen the child’s self-esteem
Children begin to develop a sense of self as babies when they see themselves through their parents’ eyes. The tone of your voice, your body language and your every expression are absorbed by the child.
Your words and actions as a parent affect your child’s self-esteem more than anything else.
Choose your words carefully and be compassionate as a parent. Let your children know that everyone makes mistakes and that you still love them, even if you do not appreciate their behavior at the moment.
Set boundaries and teach discipline
Discipline is essential in everything you do in your life. The same goes for children. The goal of discipline is to help children choose acceptable behaviors and learn self-control.
They may test the limits you set for them, but they need these limits to develop into responsible adults.
House rules help children understand your expectations and develop self-control.
Some rules might be, for example:
- the TV is not allowed until a task is completed
- hitting, marking or bad teasing is not allowed
Spend time with your child
It sounds so simple and yet it is so difficult. At least to be done with quality. It is often difficult for parents and children to get together for a family meal, let alone spend quality time together. But there is probably nothing that the children would like more.
Wake up 10 minutes early in the morning to eat breakfast together or take a walk after dinner.
Children who do not get the attention they need from their parents often behave badly because they think that this is how they will get the attention they need.
As a parent, create a “special night” each week to be with your children and let them decide how you will spend your time.
The good model
Remember that parents are role models for their children. After all, children do not do what you tell them but do what they see.
The smaller they are, the more information they get from you
Model as parents the characteristics you want to see in your children: respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, tolerance, empathy, self-confidence.
Do things for other people without expecting anything in return. Say thank you and some nice chat. A good reason.
Above all, treat your child the way you expect others to treat you.
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