Growing up does not automatically mean that you become happier. Some people when they enter 60 and 70 feel freer than obligations and commitments. Others, however, slowly sink into bitterness, loneliness and sadness. It is usually the result of certain habits that gradually penetrate that no one pays attention.

So follow some of the habits that make people unhappy as they grow older without realizing it.

1. They keep evils

Some, instead of forgiving repeat quarrels and hold an account of who has hurt them. But the longer we keep evil, the more they are strained.

Peace and serenity of the soul are better than pride. And Peace wins every time.

2. They want to comfort

Retirement and old age bring more freedom, but are also accompanied by an option: to try harder or adapt to the routine?

Some of the most unhappy people in the last years of their lives are the ones who avoid anything new. New ideas. New hobbies. New relationships. They stay in what they are familiar with and slowly shrink their world.

Comfort is enjoyable, but evolution gives meaning to life. Even something as simple as learning how to use a new app or participating in a walking team can give a little energy to the week.

3. Complaints out of habit

We all need to break out sometimes – but when the complaint becomes a habit it begins to change the way we see the world. And then the brain focuses only on the negative and this can make life look much darker than it actually is.

Instead of asking “what’s going on today?”, Try asking “What surprised me?” or “What made me smile?”

You will be amazed at how much your point of view changes.

4. Isolation from others

One of the biggest traps is the thought that loneliness is the same as independence.

If you find that you are moving away from friends, skip events or say “I don’t want to bother anyone”, ask yourself why. It is often a fear or the shame hidden behind it.

You are never too big to build new friendships. And you are definitely not a weight.

If you can, contact someone – even if it’s just a quick conversation or a phone call. The connection begins with a brave “hello”.

5. Obsessed in the past

At 60 or 70 you have definitely lived a lot and you have a lot to remember but some people focus so much in the past – what they could have been, what they once were, who once were – who forget to participate in the present.

There is nothing wrong with reminiscent of the old ones. But if every discussion starts with “in my time …” or “I wish I had …”, it may be time to leave the past and get involved with the present.

6. Denial to seek help

Pride can be a lonely companion.

Whether it’s technical problems, health problems, or emotional struggles, many people are silently suffering because they didn’t want to look weak or needy. But asking for help is not weakness. It’s wisdom. It keeps you connected. It keeps you safe. And it allows others to experience his joy to be useful to you.

One of the best ways to maintain your dignity is to admit when you need help. This simple act can deepen relationships and build trust – not eroded it.

7. Consumption of excessive news or negativity

Excessive news consumption can destroy your mental health.

Many elderly people keep the news as a noise in the background all day. And over time, this constant flow of bad news shapes their worldview.

Suddenly everything seems dangerous, people seem less reliable and hope begins to fade.

You should definitely be up to date, but you should not drown in it. Read a novel. See something that makes you laugh. Get out and see how much beauty is still out there.

8. Neglect of physical health

You don’t have to run marathons. But regular walking, stretching, consuming enough water and eating healthy food can do wonders for your mood, energy and mental state.

When you feel better physically, your mind often follows you.

9. Believing it is too late for joy

If there is a belief that makes people unhappy in their last years, this is: “My best days are behind me.”

This belief penetrates quietly, especially after a great loss or a fear of health. But once it is established, it becomes a self -fulfilling prophecy.

Your 60s and 70s can be full of meaning. Relationships can deepen. Passions can evolve. Gratitude can grow.

You’re not on the sidelines unless you decide it.

In fact, happiness in your 60s and 70s has nothing to do with pretending that everything is perfect. It’s about choosing what habits help you feel alive – and leave behind those who don’t help you.