In a previous discussion we talked about the mistakes we make at the beginning of a relationship and how to avoid them. One of them may be how we interpret our partner’s behavior and it is definitely worth analyzing a little more.
First of all, the term “misinterpretation” does not mean that we should idealize and accept everything, especially if some of our partner’s behavior is against our principles and beliefs, as the most important thing in a relationship is to know us and our partner the limits of each.
By misinterpretation we mean those little things that we misunderstand the other, especially at the beginning of a relationship. There are times when we are all carried away by the excitement and madness of the love of the first days, as a result of which we make mistakes that not only “send” wrong messages to our new partner but also condemn the relationship itself.
Wrong messages
As we said before, many times we misunderstand the behavior of the partner. For example, we get angry if he does not call us first or if he does not do so at the frequency we want. Everyone has their own schedule and it certainly does not mean that they do not care or that they do not care about us.
The need to interpret others
Have you ever wondered where our need to constantly interpret the messages of others comes from, with all the dangers this can bring? Well, according to psychology, often a person tends to analyze the behaviors of others because of his phobias but also to control the environment around him. This gives us a sense of security as we feel we can reduce the potential risks that could possibly hurt us.
Dangers
We often create problems through our own projections that lead us to misinterpretations. Each of us carries our own suitcases from the past. Suitcases that are full of pain and sorrow. Some people do not even know that they have the so-called “emotional baggage”, as they choose to consciously ignore their problem and phobias.
Distortion of the truth
All of the above lead with mathematical precision to the distortion of the truth and the real facts, with the result that not only do we wrong the person next to us but also we condemn the relationship with him.
Avoid mistakes
Even if something seems easy to interpret, we can test it if it really works by simply asking the other person. “I think you say that because…, is that so?” and then listen objectively to his answer. Relationships are based on honesty and trust.
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