“I used to be close to my parents, but now my parents pick on me.” (Image: Neil Webb/)

It’s time for a weekly sex column, a regular series where experts give struggling couples advice on how to navigate the world of romance.

Last week we helped a widow who wanted to move but was afraid of hurting her daughter.

This week I heard from someone who hasn’t seen their parents have kinky sex since they were 17.

This affects his family relationships, so how is this traumatic son doing?

issue:

“I wish I could drink a magic potion so I wouldn’t know what it was like when I was 17.”

‘I got home early from the party and felt sick, so I went straight into the living room with my parents and we had sex.

‘To make matters worse, they weren’t having the usual sex you’d expect from their parents, instead they were having the sex you see on porn. They both fainted and ran out of the house towards their partner.

“I stayed with him for a few days, but finally I had to go home and meet them. It was very annoying – dad was always joking around and mom looked like she wanted to cry.”

‘Soon after, I left home and got an apartment with my girlfriend, but now I have to split up and go home for financial reasons.

“It’s strange what happened four years ago, but it still feels like yesterday. Every time we meet, there seems to be an elephant in the room.

I used to be close to my parents, but now my parents pick on me.‘

Expert opinion:

This is a difficult situation, but you can sleep. Our experts are seeing this trauma, but we encourage you to be realistic with your parents.

“To think that sex is only young is to deny the fact that what noble people do is that their sexual desire can continue throughout our lives,” said Dr. Angarad Radkin.

“Your parents didn’t deliberately discourage you or feel as sick as you do.”

According to Rupard Smith, your age at the time determines your feelings. “The fact that it happened when you were an adult and you didn’t have ‘normal’ sex means it hit you hard,” she says.

“The whole family is feeling upset right now. Given how difficult it is to talk about these things, we have some family therapy sessions to help you work through your emotions and move on. I encourage you to take it.” We understand each other. ”

James McConaughey asks you to think about what “normal” sex really is. “My parents are doing more than just taking the missionary position in the dark,” he says.

“After all, it’s better to have happy, caring, sexually adventurous parents than dissatisfied, dissatisfied parents who are pushed down. Make them more forgiving. Please, you’re only human and you all need to move on.”

Radkin is sure you can laugh about it for years to come.

“But first, we have to talk to our parents and admit what this episode is. It’s an embarrassing moment where nobody did anything wrong,” he concludes.

Expert:

Rupard Smith is a writer and consultant

James McConaughey is the author of Sex (The Rough Guide)

Dr. Angharad Rudkin is a clinical psychologist.

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