As humans, we all have distinct personalities, likes and dislikes—and that’s what makes us unique and special.

However, there is sometimes a point in categorizing people as a means of understanding what commonalities they share and can facilitate their connection with others. A common way of categorizing people is into extroverts and introverts. This significant difference in one’s personality in terms of comfort with interpersonal relationships and pursuits can make partners in an introvert-extrovert relationship wonder if the mismatch can ultimately work out in the long run.

According to relationship therapist Tracy Ross, the introvert-extrovert relationships are quite common and this may be because people crave balance.

“Introverts and extroverts are drawn to each other because of their differences,” says Ross. In some ways, this need for balance can work very well in a couple, as the extrovert can help the introvert when they feel they need more socializing on their agenda, and the introvert can support the extrovert when they feel overwhelmed by socializing.

This scenario, however, can lead to some problems in relationships – especially when partners don’t communicate honestly with each other. “Communication is the backbone of any relationship,” says Ross. “Communication is really about understanding each other’s needs, understanding and respecting that you are different, and accepting yourself in order to learn to adapt when needed». While an introvert-extrovert relationship is possible with healthy communication, there are potential obstacles to be aware of if you find yourself in such a situation.

  • Compromise on social commitments

“For an extrovert, it’s not just exciting to meet new people – it’s a way to refuel,” says Ross. This is why extroverts may want to go out more than their introverted partner. Regardless of the role you play in the introvert-extrovert relationship, understanding is essential.

If you’re the extrovert, it helps to remember that your partner is more likely to be exhausted by frequent social interactions, and to respect their desire not to follow you every time. Give your partner a little more time when you want to go somewhere together and don’t suggest it at the last minute, as an introvert needs more time to mentally and psychologically prepare for social interactions.

Likewise, if you’re the introvert in the relationship, it’s important to understand that your partner may need social interaction to recharge their batteries. You may realize that doing something to please your partner, even if it’s not your first choice, will give them joy and make them appreciate your effort.

  • The introvert’s feeling castrated by the extrovert’s interactions

There is often a perception that extroverted qualities are preferable in various social situations. With this in mind, we understand that introverts may feel castrated by their social partner in social settings. “The key here,” says Ross, “is to remember that both parties involved have their strengths and situations in which they shine, it’s just that social gatherings are extroverts’ trump card.”

  • Different approaches to arguments

Ross says extroverts tend to say whatever comes to mind during an argument because one way they process information is by hearing themselves talk about it.

Introverts, however, usually don’t respond unless they are sure of how they feel or think about a subject. So, when an extrovert is ready to talk, an introvert may well not be—and that can set the stage for fights later.

One of the reasons this can lead to yet another disagreement is that extroverts may take an introvert’s silence as a sign of indifference. What’s more likely, though, is that the introvert is identifying how they’re feeling so they can respond, rather than react (and that might be a good thing).