Nowadays, many romantic situations and even relationships start through text messages. The pitfall in this process is to detect the presence of chemistry. There are not a few times when you can be self-indulgent by “christening” a situation what you would like it to be, rather than what it actually is.

Fortunately, there are ways to spot chemistry even through texting.

  • He shows a genuine interest in getting to know you better

One of the most important signs that someone is trying to “build” chemistry with you is when they ask you questions. In other words, if he’s texting to see what you’re up to, how you’re doing, how your day went, then he’s obviously not just interested, he’s trying to establish that. This becomes even clearer when he also asks clarifying questions. That is, when he is not just satisfied with a diplomatic answer, but wants to know details, analyze situations or help you “get” things out of you.

  • There is a balance in the effort to communicate

Do you feel like you are being talked about only because of you? Or that only you send the first message. If so, then there is no chemistry between you. At least not yet. Accordingly, if there is an informal organization in when one sends and when the other, then the feelings are mutual. Finally, the absence of your name in his notifications is conspicuous.

  • It makes it obvious that he is paying attention to you when you speak

There is a difference between active listening and passive listening. One way to find out which of the two he’s doing is to bring up a topic you’ve talked to him about in the past. For example, if you had an argument with a colleague last week, and today there was some development, bring it up. No intro. If he understands directly what you say to him, he gives you the necessary attention and actively listens to you. With real interest.

  • You can feel the chemistry. Literally

If you want to understand if the chemistry you feel is real, observe yourself. How do you feel when you get a message from him? Your body never lies to you. You might feel flattered when you see his name in his notifications. But what is required to know that what is happening is romantic chemistry is to feel an energy as if he is literally there around you, even if he is not there.

  • Texting takes your communication to the next level

Messaging is perfect and convenient. No one disputes that. But the chemistry lies in your tendency to both equally want to take this one step further. Whether you call it a phone call, or a video call, or a meeting at a bar or in a park, this is an indicator that your feelings want to lead somewhere. In a more present communication, situation and bonding.