We grew up with the stereotype that we should go through life with people of the same generation as us, at least on a friendly level. Indeed, up to a point this makes sense. Only a peer can feel your problems and anxieties, identify with them, understand and support you. The older ones are over it and the younger ones don’t even know what you’re talking about.

And yet, a recent survey comes to overturn what we believed until now, revealing that almost 4 in 10 adults (37%) have a close friend at least 15 years older or younger. The same evidence reveals that friendships between people belonging to different generations form more easily at older ages –Gen X (41%) and Boomers (39%)– and less among younger generations (millennials, 32%).

Certainly, friendships with peers are characterized by understanding and shared experiences. This, however, does not negate the charm of the relationships we can build with people belonging to a different generation. After all, they are governed by a unique possibility: They offer a bridge between the past, the present and the future, allowing each generation to learn from the experiences and perspectives of the other. They can bring joy, inspiration and a renewed drive for life, breaking down barriers and forging bonds that transcend age.

  • Transmission of values

One of the most important advantages of friendship between people of different generations is the exchange of values. Older friends have a lot of life experiences to share, providing invaluable knowledge and guidance to younger ones. In turn, the younger ones introduce new ideas and a modern outlook on life, giving the older generation the ability to stay connected to developments.

  • Life lessons

Intergenerational friendships foster an atmosphere of continuous learning and personal growth. Sharing knowledge and experiences allows both parties to broaden their horizons, challenging preconceptions and encouraging empathy. One learns from the other, discovers new perspectives, changes one’s way of thinking and gains a deeper understanding of the world.

  • Support system

Regardless of age, we all experience moments of joy, but also great challenges. A friendly relationship with a person of another generation can provide a unique support system, providing emotional comfort and companionship during difficult times. Sharing the good and bad times, as in any relationship, fosters a sense of belonging and strengthens bonds of friendship, stable over time.

How are friendships formed between people belonging to different generations?

  • Embracing diversity: Such friendships are created only if you are open to meeting people of all ages. Go places and take part in activities that involve all generations. Maybe that’s where your older and younger friends are hiding!
  • Listening and learning: Show interest in the stories and experiences shared by people of a different generation. Ask them about their lives and process the ideas and information they share with you.
  • Discovering common interests: Look for shared hobbies, interests and activities that can bring people of different ages together. Join clubs or groups you like to meet like-minded people of all ages.
  • Showing respect and empathy: Treat every person with respect, regardless of age. Be gentle with your generational differences and approach your conversations with empathy and an open mind.