You have surely heard in groups and in meetings of friends the saying “I had the best sex of my life”. But what is defined as ideal in sex? And if there is a secret why is it so hard for all of us to discover it?

Are you saying to alienate? Are you saying he doesn’t like the sex I’m having? If he gets bored of me and I don’t satisfy him, do you want him to look for something better than me? Am I not doing it right?

  • Satisfaction, pleasure, climax

This constant struggle that has no stop and makes sense. We constantly hear and read that sex is one of the most important elements in a relationship, just as logical. Without it, they say, a relationship cannot be maintained, since sex is synonymous with communication.

She didn’t want sex when I told her to. I provoked her as much as I could but she said she was tired and had a headache. He doesn’t want me like he did at the beginning of our relationship. Has she found someone else to satisfy her? Did he get bored of me so we don’t have sex as often anymore?

  • Talk to me about sex

Before writing this text, I thought I’d do a little internet research. “Five ways to make him remember you as the best sex of his life.” A few hours later I head to my neighborhood kiosk. A well-known magazine says in big letters on its cover: “Sex doesn’t need effort, it needs a way.” Perfect. I’m here to add this: Your future together depends on your chemistry in bed, and there’s no way the relationship will last if you’re not compatible in that area in the first place. I’m not saying it, everyone is saying it. And for everyone to say it, they’d probably be right, right?

  • The follow-up questions

What if I don’t satisfy her the way she likes? What if I finish early? If he stares indifferently at the ceiling as if nothing is happening? How will I be memorable to her if she doesn’t like me in bed? I want her to forget all her previous experiences with sex. I’m not that fit, maybe he has experiences with more gifted ones. What if he tells me straight up?

  • Masculinity and femininity

Doubts always. Because femininity and masculinity reign supreme among many people’s worst fears out there. After all, no one is irreplaceable since we are all expendable and can very easily get caught in the middle and even out of the game. Or at least that’s what we were taught to believe.

What; Was that it already? He only thinks about himself. He lay like a starfish in bed and did nothing. Now is he really asking me to go to sleep so quickly? Where is the one who kept asking me to keep in touch? Why doesn’t he look me in the eyes the way I look at him anymore? My mom has told me many times that the woman is the one who keeps the man and if she wants to keep him then she has to be good in bed, right?

  • Sexologists and psychotherapists unite

Probably only you can give the most appropriate answers because we are full of paraphilology. One of the most important findings of the experts? But of course low self-confidence and self-esteem. This self-confidence that is stereotypically determined by what we saw in videos since that is where many think the champion, the model, the standard of comparison is. We also learned that for sex to be absolutely good then it should be connected beyond emotion and with pain. Beyond the pain and with obscene words, maybe even violent gestures. Otherwise it is very soft and does not bother us. Indifferent. Subtle. This is today, after all, the standard of superior sexual satisfaction in our imaginations.

And this is how we are often considered inadequate, incapable or that we lack something. How the ideal is miles away from us if we don’t touch our wildest side. But how realistic is this in reality and what is it that the opposite sex actually expects from us in bed?

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  • We forget the feeling of love

I confess that some may have never learned it, never experienced it, never even been taught it. Love or sex (you choose if these two differ in your mind) has nothing to do with unity. Otherwise, objectively, why not satisfy ourselves? Why not be satisfied with the sex we chose purely based on how much the image of the other arouses us sexually?

  • The soul is part of our body

Sex guys, bad lies shouldn’t be the ultimate goal. It shouldn’t be considered the number one criterion for the quality of a relationship, and do you know why? Because it should be the means to achieve the union of two people on a cerebral and physical level. And the closer the minds, the better the sex. The more in love the souls are, the more intense the sex in turn. Because love, whether we like it or not, is not only concerned with physical satisfaction, which is why it endures longer in time in contrast to simple carnal pleasure.

If there isn’t a little (or a lot) of spirituality in it all, how do we expect to find the essential ingredient of good sex?

There is no. Sexual intercourse is free. The point is to stimulate your brain first and everything else always comes when and where you least expect it. So are you still searching for the meaning of really good sex?

Lovers don’t see, only touch. But if you manage to touch their soul, then guess what. Sex is getting great!