A separation can be harsh. Whoever has decided- either you or much the other side- if there are emotions and a common life time is often not at all easy to deal with. You may feel lost, confused, and even wonder if you will ever find yourself again. But as difficult as it may seem now, life does not end here. In fact, it can be the beginning of a new, stronger version.

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The key is to move forward in a way that will make you feel really good with you.

Give time to yourself

First of all, don’t be pressured. There is no right or wrong way to overcome a separation. If you feel good one day and the next you are a mess, it is perfectly normal. The end of a relationship is like a little mourning, and it takes time.

And do you know something? You don’t have to show that you are strong if you do not feel that way. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to stay home with pajamas watching rows and eating chocolate, do it. But don’t stick there.
Make a time limit for your “pain”, a week, two weeks, as needed. After that, start coming back into the world again. I’m not saying to find another right away (unless you want it), but start taking care of yourself.

Remember who you were before the relationship (spoiler: you were great!)

When you are in a relationship, it is easy to forget who you were before. Maybe you left some hobbies aside, you might have changed some habits, maybe even the music you hear was affected by each other.
Now is the opportunity to remember all that you loved.

• What did you like to do before you get into this relationship?
• What made you feel full and happy?
• Is there anything you always wanted to try, but you never did it?
Start slowly to integrate them back into your daily routine. This is your opportunity to become the woman you love again!

Take care of yourself physically and mentally

I know, after a separation it is tempting to fall on the couch with junk food and get lost in Tiktok. But that will make you feel even more tired and tired.
Instead, you tried to do little things that will upload you:

• Go a walk in the sun (natural light does wonders at your disposal!)
• Start a kind of exercise that pleases you. You don’t have to become a fitness guru, just find something that makes you feel alive.
• Sleep well. Lack of sleep makes the pain of separation look even worse.
• Put some music that makes you happy in your living room (yes, it works!)
• Cook something nutritious for you, a dish that will give you energy, not something that will bear you.

Created new dreams and goals

Your life may have been tied to someone else for a long time, but now it’s your time.
Think about this: How do you want to be the next phase of your life?

Write on a paper or a diary that it comes to your mind even crazy dreams that look distant.

• You can travel somewhere you’ve always wanted
• change work or start something of your own
• make new friends and build a circle of people who inspire you
Whatever it is, start making it a reality, one step at a time.

Life goes on … and you will be fine!

One of the biggest mistakes we make after a separation is to look for someone else to fill the gap. The truth is that no one else can make you happy if you yourself don’t feel good about yourself.

Instead of hurrying to get into a new relationship just to not be alone, focus on loving you again. Only in this way will you be able to attract a man who will really fit you and not someone who is just a “patch” in the void you feel.

I know it can now hurt. But believe me: The time will come when you wake up and you will not care anymore.

The time will come when you smile spontaneously again, that you will feel free and strong, to say: “It was difficult, but I went through it and now I am better than ever.” Until then, just keep taking care of yourself and giving him the time he needs.