First of all, remember that you are not alone (Photo: Getty Images/EyeEm)

On Father’s Day, there are numerous announcements that remind us to approach one of the most important men in our lives with something special.

Cheese blocking ads and monthly beer signings have grown dramatically thanks to the fact that everyone should have such a cheery dad.

But what if it isn’t?

Counselor Debbie Fletcher said:

“For some of us, this can lead to difficult and painful emotions that are hard to ignore when looking at an ‘ideal’ father-son relationship everywhere.

First, let’s discuss some emotions before getting tips on how to deal with them.

“Alienation can be difficult or surprising, such as depression, anger, guilt, and even relief. Anything can work,” the sisters explain. “Angry about how you’ve been treated, guilty about walking away from someone who’s fighting something that makes them someone you can’t safely have in your life, or you’re slowly drifting away. Melancholy about the relationship.

“For LGBTQ+ people, the feeling of alienation associated with sexuality and the denial of sex can be especially offensive to those trying to love you unconditionally.

“It is important to remember that it is not your fault that your parents are not supportive or hostile, it is their reaction and behavior.

A lonely woman sitting on the bed looks out the window.

“There are many other people who experience loss, anger and sadness” (Photo: Getty Images)

Reminds me that Father’s Day is coming up. It is especially difficult for someone who is away from their father during this time, but remember that you are not alone as much as possible.

“There are many other people who are experiencing loss, anger and sadness, and there may be support groups and communities that you can participate in,” the sisters say.

“Don’t be afraid to share your thoughts and feelings for the day, either directly or online.

‘If possible, share the day with your friends. Your “found family” can be a source of love, affirmation, strength, and support. They are the people you choose to share your life with, which is just as right and important as the relationship you were born with. “

It’s also a good idea to limit social media where posts about your father are widespread.

“Consider using tools like Mute Word and Father’s Day email. To reject emails for simplicity,” the sisters suggest.

Treatment can also help if all of this is particularly difficult to manage.

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Separation

This series aims to add a nuance to family alienation.

Alienation is not an obvious situation and we would like to vote for those who have experienced it for themselves.

If you are personally experiencing alienation and would like to share your story, you can email [email protected] and/or [email protected].

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