The need to organize our future can unwittingly keep us away from the happiness and joyful moments of the now
The need to be and feel good and organize our future can unwittingly keep us away from the happiness and joyous moments of now.
According to Lia Avellino, a psychologist, many people feel pressure to create a life as close to perfection as they define perfection.
If you feel the need to secure the job of your dreams, while also finding the ideal partner, having a close circle of supportive friends and generally ticking all the boxes that one assumes contribute to a quality life, you may well feel like you’re running in a hamster wheel.
Even if you have all those boxes ticked, the hamster wheel doesn’t stop because in your mind there is always room for improvement and this is a huge vicious cycle that has just begun.
That’s why Avellino wants us to stop being demanding, accept “good enough” and find a sense of happiness with what we already have.
“The goal of ‘good enough’ is to broaden the perspective not only to identify deficiencies, but also to look at wholeness,” says Avellino.
That’s not to say that introspection and our intention to work on ourselves and our lives isn’t worth it, but constantly chasing the best version of ourselves can be exhausting.
So, what is the right balance?
According to Avellino, hope for the future is an important tool that can be useful for our mood and our goals, but it is a double-edged sword since a fixation on tomorrow can obscure all that we can learn and appreciate today.
“If we get stuck in a mood of positivity about the future—which is good—we won’t be as connected as we need to be to what we already have—which is necessary,” says Avellino.
So, be optimistic, but don’t allow that positive attitude and outlook to keep you away from what’s happening in the present – ​​even if you don’t love the way you’re living the present. “A full life does not always mean only happiness,” says the expert. “Happiness is a fleeting feeling. Life means feeling fear, sadness, sadness, anger.”
Continue to face the future with optimism but often take stock of your life in the present.
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