For many, a stable, long-term relationship is the ultimate goal of their love life. They seek companionship and are not interested in spending their time on casual acquaintances.

Indeed, a stable relationship can provide a sense of security and familiarity, elements that are highly desirable, especially at a time when the world around us seems increasingly foreign and hostile.

But how does this intimacy translate to bed? Isn’t knowing exactly what to expect from your man such a positive thing when it comes to sex?

“To be honest, both scenarios are possible. Many people don’t like to admit that their sex life can suffer. Others, again, are able to maintain a warm sex life despite the ups and downs that naturally come with a long-term relationship. The answer is different for every couple“, the certified says to Poosh sex counselor, Casey Murphy. “Sex in a long-term relationship can be one of the most rewarding and enjoyable love experiences you can have. Many people think that being “too comfortable” in a relationship is a bad thing, but when it comes to sex and physical intimacy, comfort is the relationship superpower“, he adds.

How is good sex defined?

According to the expert, sex in a long-term relationship can be like fine wine: It is kept, worked and aged with care and affection. Over time and within the context of a long-term relationship, people gain the ability to release their inhibitions and insecurities, improve communication with their partner, and jointly create a secure base from which to to explore together the different aspects of a good love life.

There is one key to good sex between two people in a long-term relationship: Effort. Just as good wine needs care and effort to reach its high quality, so does a good love life. Take care of her and she will repay you!