I turn back time. Back to my student days and thankfully those years are still distinctly visible.

A “shy” girl officially made the decision to make her dream come true. Those who knew her, knew that she did not like to read much, only the lessons that had something essential to teach her. He loved Literature, Antiquities, Exhibition, Biology. She got excited many times with her chemist.

The exception was the Panhellenic, where he gave his all even if things didn’t go as he expected. The page changed and the chapter he chose, everyone knew. Along with the stones.

He got into the school he had been dreaming of since high school. She entered the school that she had confided in her first love that would come true. Everyone told her that it suits her, everyone except herself because doubt has been her close friend since childhood. She finally succeeded, got a degree and spent 5 wonderful years learning almost everything about herself.

Lie number one

The specific studies made her many times think that every disorder she learned about and every individual difference referred to her. Perhaps one of the biggest lies – games she played with her mind to explore as much as she could, almost unknowingly. Lie 2? In the end, her shyness was not a disadvantage, but a virtue, and indeed one of the few.

“Time to choose a thesis topic.” My supervisor was clear. Choose something that characterizes you. My indecision was just as misleading. Final thesis topic? I correlated shyness with social anxiety and after research, I gave 2 questionnaires to 100 participants to find out together what percentages of shyness or social anxiety are out there.

The “intriguing” investigation. I admit that there has been a lot of interest from those who have read, learned or participated in my research. I admit that I was happy because just before I handed it in, I realized that what I researched and wrote had a huge percentage to do with myself. I won’t tell you more about the research (if you want I can send it to you), because my purpose here is different.

“The brash irritates, the shy has a lot more to say”

Years passed and the girl with the research grew up, but she never stopped exploring herself. It may be that she was never the one who would dominate the interest, that is, she did not want to attract all the eyes, but she was never shy when talking about her work, with her friends and especially when she expressed what concerned herself. Luckily, he knew how to camouflage, or so he thought.

He was troubled, he is still “looking” for answers to everything

It’s her nature if you want that, maybe you are that kind of person too and that’s more than ok. It’s ok, because recognizing your weaknesses and turning them into an asset a little later is a virtue. Shyness is a virtue. And while it took me years to recognize it, now I can sign off on it.

Numerous studies and psychologists will tell you that being shy is not just a characteristic, but a state, like happiness or sadness. So everyone can at some point in their life feel awkward in a presentation (it’s happened to me too) or on a first date or when they find themselves at a social event where they don’t seem to feel comfortable because they don’t know anyone.

Do you blush easily? Fortunately, I have the pleasure of not embodying this feeling in this way, but other things happen to me, especially when I was younger.

A typical example was the sweating, specifically of my hands. Others feel that they experience a panic attack the moment their shyness appears. Public speaking is one of the most typical examples and this is because a shy person has a huge insecurity with criticism. The first thought he usually has is that he is going to black out. Some interpret shyness as coldness and others as arrogance. You; How do you feel when this feeling comes up? Have you heard the nickname snob many times?

No, I’m not a snob and neither are you

I am referring to a fellow student of mine who once became friends through this, while his first conversation at our first coffee was this: “Hey, I honestly thought you were a snob for a long time. Finally I fell out.” He wasn’t the only one who had assumed that about me. Of course, my over-effort to prove to those people who were interested in me that I am not an elephant, at some point started to tire me and today, fortunately, I don’t care. So today I allow myself to be called whatever they want, as long as I in turn believe what I want for everyone.

Those who want to know you, let them know you. Whether you are the shy one or you, the girl who is trying to be liked in order to achieve some of your future goals, keep in mind that your happiness has nothing to do with others, it has to do with whether it comes from within you. If you are comfortable with who you are, sooner or later others will understand, and if they don’t want to get drunk on you, then only those who really want to know you.

Not everyone is for everyone. And let us all search for our footsteps. A shy character needs to have a good conversationalist, since he can usually very easily lend his empathy and his hearing, especially in the silences that exist when there is chatter all around. They see beyond the obvious and that if you ask me, you won’t find in abundance out there.

Are overconfident people worth trust after all?

I admit that the above question requires a lot of research and I can’t even give you the answer myself. But I do know one thing first hand.

Shyness begets leniency. He has manners. He knows how to respect and demands the same. The shy person sooner or later becomes likable. The shy person seeks more than anything to be memorable to you for his “something” different. For his non-obvious ones. A shy person knows how to forgive, because he rarely forgives himself.

While the brazen? Brazenness irritates. His mistakes, unfortunately, seem unforgivable, unlike the shy one whose humble look ensures immunity. An immunity that definitely wants the word “man” to be added next to the word “good”.