Self-care as a concept is now not only known to us but is also the number one topic for discussion. Phrases like: “Remember to love yourself”, “self-care should become your way of life”, have become established in our vocabulary. But have they become a way of life in reality? This is the question that will concern us here. And if so, how do we really understand it?
What is not self-care?
Becoming self-centered.
This is definitely not self-care. That is, to constantly applaud what we say and what we manage to do. Self-care does not mean I learn to be proud of myself in every way, but I learn to take care of myself to communicate effectively with others, to create important life relationships.
Doing what others do is also not a sign of self-care.
Instead, self-care is a personalized experience. What the other needs does not generally mean that it falls within our needs. The right question here is: “What kind of care would I choose today or tomorrow for me always according to my own needs?”
Self-care is not to take care of yourself constantly and only for your outside.
Externally pleasurable stimuli such as buying a garment are a small dose of self-care that usually works. in addition with the care of him within us, but in no case individually.
Self-care is finally not planned.
If you constantly have in mind how to take care of you and how to do it in the best possible way, just keep in mind that it does not work because in this way you lead mainly to stress and sometimes depression.
Self-care has 5 important dimensions:
Physical, spiritual, emotional, social and existential dimension. We try to bring these five fields into harmony.
So it would be good to formulate your daily questions about self-care in the following way:
- What have I done for my body in the last month? Where exactly am I in pain and what does he mean by that?
- How do I protect my emotional world? Where did I express my feelings? How many no or yes did I have to say? Who really listened to me? How do I feel now and what things do I feel grateful for today?
- What did I hear, what did I read, what did I think that evolved me? How did I feel calm in my present? What people did I meet last week and what kind of conversations did we have? Which topics really suited me and I would love to repeat?
- How do I feel that others think of me? What are my support systems?
- How do I think about my life and future? How would I define happiness? Do I feel really happy this time of year, this month or this week?
In closing, I feel I have to suggest you some ways of self-care that you may not have thought of until today. Personally, some of them in my case worked spectacularly well. Of course you have the right and the judgment to think about them, even if they do not suit you to reject them. Because self-care is a personal choice and will always happily result in an emotion, that of fullness that exists within us.
Get paper and pen and if you want note:
# 1 Add simplicity to your life
Whatever this means for you, it is important here to understand that expressing your love for what you are really interested in is valuable. Add water, remove anything you do not use and that does not fill your “gaps”. Add love, remove toxicity. Whatever that means for you. Either it responds to people or even objects. Simplicity lies right there. In the “clarification” of what you really need.
# 2 If you need it, choose to do psychotherapy
History has shown that this is one of the most valuable gifts we can offer ourselves. It is an internal journey without a specific destination. You will experience it, until you get to where you feel best. And how do you know? Maybe along the way you will discover your destination.
# 3 Start some kind of meditation or exercise
Notice if you feel good about your body. If you feel relief, pain or discomfort in it. Then try to observe if you have learned to breathe properly. But mainly if you endure the silences that exist around you and inside you.
If you follow the above steps, you will surely be surprised. And if you feel that you are already on the right track, then great! Continue the journey! It’s worth the effort, the time and definitely all your “is”!
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