To teach us what we really want and where we want to go. Do we really know? Some bring out the best in us and some bring out the worst in us. There are those who want it and those who don’t, they like it this way but not otherwise. They say yes to flirting but no to relationship. They get something in the word commitment and the whole issue is how we will behave and whether it is ultimately worth getting involved more or if they are another red flag, since they are afraid to get involved and express all that they feel.

Below you will find a collection of 20 sayings that you will often hear from someone who avoids getting closer to you.

Because if you, in turn, are afraid of red flags, I’m here to save you from another one.

  • I’m not looking for anything serious or permanent at this time.
  • Why do you want to get into more trouble?
  • I am not a child for commitments, I prefer my freedom at all levels.
  • It’s not fair to be with me, I won’t give you everything you need.
  • What will change if we call it a relationship? We’re having a great time, aren’t we?
  • I feel like you deserve better than being with me.
  • There are things I haven’t told you about myself and I’m having trouble expressing them right now.
  • I feel confused-confused.
  • The relationship is just a routine that doesn’t suit me. Better not put a label on what we have.
  • I’m not as well as you think.
  • I’m not able to trust, I’ve been through a lot.
  • I want something casual, let’s see.
  • I don’t want either of us to get hurt in the end.
  • Before getting into a relationship I have chosen to live as many love experiences as I can.
  • I’ve been hurt so many times before, I’m not in a position to go through it again.
  • I think it’s too early to meet my group. You are in a hurry.
  • What if you leave me and want to meet someone else?
  • Have you noticed where all relationships end up now? Get into a relationship and then break up?
  • I’m under pressure in general and it’s not your fault either.
  • I want some time, maybe later the timing will be better for both of us.

Does any of the above remind you of a certain person? If so, redefine within yourself the reasons why you would like to be in a relationship with this person, and then ask yourself the following question: What more does this person have to offer me that I cannot offer myself?