Singer who met virtual sex during the pandemic tells her experience

It was Instagram that connected singer and chef Tati Bassi, 36, with the man with whom she had her first virtual sex experience. Confined to her home in Mogi das Cruzes (SP), she had just taken the first dose of the Covid vaccine when she started talking to the musician.

The two had mutual friends, but did not know each other personally. They talked about punk rock, Tim Maia, cinema, literature. Until the thing evolves into sexting, which is the exchange of messages with sexual content.

“One thing led to another, and we started to have some warmer conversations”, he says. “You open a video call, make a drink, the person makes another drink on the other side. It’s like a date, with the difference that everyone is in their own house. But it took a long time for me to show myself. I was still insecure.”

When the pandemic hit, Tati was still recovering from the end of her marriage and hadn’t been in a relationship with anyone for over a year. With the quarantine, everything got more difficult. Experts around the world began to recommend masturbation and virtual sex to contain the spread of Covid, transmitted mainly by droplets of saliva. There were even those who recommended the use of masks during sex, as a harm reduction strategy, in addition to creativity in the positions. Kiss on the mouth, no way.

At that time, Tati was in a process of “discovering self-love”. She turned her gaze inward for self-acceptance. She started to follow the profile of Movimento Corpo Livre on Instagram and got to know stories of women who love themselves as they are. And she decided to take sexy pictures of herself to try to rescue her self-esteem.

“I didn’t accept my body. But I started to see myself differently and I noticed things in myself that I had never seen before. I started posting these photos and writing about self-acceptance on Instagram”, he says.

After a year of a pandemic and amid so much bad news, Tati was still without a head to think about relationships. Only after having the vaccine in her arm did she think it was possible to talk about other things. It was then that she met the musician. And she found it curious to feel “attraction online”.

“The conversations started and I took it. One day he praised a photo of me and said he had wanted to kiss me all over. When I saw it, I was crazy on one side, and he was crazy on the other.” And it happened. Several times, for a long time. “We talked to each other on the phone or video call. I would say what I wanted him to do and he would also say what he wanted.”

The singer says she was afraid to see her intimacy exposed on social media, yes, but she took some precautions. She didn’t send videos or nudes to her partner, just “more provocative” photos, just like the ones she posts on Instagram.

“Our thing was more the chat, the voice. So only if he took a screenshot of the messages or video calls. But in that case the process would sing.”

Everything went very well, and today they are friends. Tati says that she will always prefer physical contact, but she enjoyed the experience and managed to have a lot of pleasure with virtual sex. “It’s nice, because you can fantasize a lot of things. I put my toys in the game and it makes everything more fun.”

After they had both doses of the vaccine, they finally felt safe to arrange a face-to-face meeting. “We saw each other three or four times. It was great, but it could not have been. Sometimes it’s good online, but in person it doesn’t work, there’s no chemistry. We agreed that, if it didn’t work out, we would just laugh about the situation. we said: ‘imagine if we meet and it’s not all that?'”, he says, laughing.

The story didn’t go forward because that wasn’t what they were looking for. She is now dedicated to her new band, Tati Bassi & Devil Blues, with whom she is preparing an album release —the first single is due out in July—, and to Rango Tango, where she is a vegan chef. “I’m single and for now I want to stay alone. My focus is me and my work.”