Michelle Obama She “broke” her silence and talked about everything. Former First Lady caused a sensation when she did not attend President Donald Trump’s second swearing -in in January. This move came shortly after it was absent from Jimmy Carter’s funeral, where he would sit next to Trump.

Although her absence from the spotlight after the New Year triggered rumors of bitterness, scandals, and even separation with her husband, Barack Obama, she now says she was just “The right choice for me.”

In the episode of April 23 of her Podcast, “Imo with Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson”, co -organized with her brother, – Obama and the invited Taraji P. Henson – she spoke honestly about life in the spotlight and the criticism of black women.

“People could not believe that I was saying no for any other reason. They had to assume that my marriage was being dismantled »said Obama for the headlines around swearing and the solo exits of her husband. “I had to do what was going through my power so as not to do what they thought was right, but to do what was right for me. This was not easy, “he said with disarming honesty.

Her decision on Trump swearing -in

Michelle Obama explained that she had to “fool” herself to follow her desire not to go to the swearing -in, ensuring that she had nothing to wear if she was starting to feel the pressure to attend.

‘Started with having nothing to wear’Obama said about the moment she finalized her decision. “I thought, if I’m not going to go to this thing, I have to say it to my team. I don’t even want to have a dress ready, right? Because it’s so easy to say just let’s do the right one ». If her team was not preparing a dress, she knew she couldn’t change her mind.

Monitoring events without her husband or vice versa, all linked to Michelle’s efforts to practice the “Art of saying no” When you feel it is the right decision.

‘It’s a muscle you have to’ ‘build’ ”explained about her philosophy. “And I think we’ve suffered, because it’s almost like we started training late in our lives. I’m just starting to build him »he said with emphasis.

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The human and vulnerable side of Michelle Obama

Perhaps it was the first time that Michelle Obama decided to “crumple” and take out her most human and vulnerable side.

“I want my daughters, I want young women out there to start practicing different strategies to say no”he stressed. “I still have to show people that I love my country, that I do the right thing, that even in the face of a lot of hypocrisy and contradictions, all I do is maintain this crazy bar that our mothers and grandmothers put us.”

In the years that passed since she and her family left the White House in 2017, Obama said she was deeply cured to find out how this experience influenced her.

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“We did it. We went out alive »he said with disarming honesty. “I hope we made the country proud. My girls, thank God, are good. But what happened to me? “wondered. “Treatment makes me see the fact that, maybe, I’m in the end quite good”he added.

Michelle and Barack Obama

Henson agreed, saying that women often become “shock absorbers” for people in their lives and undertake more than they should. “You had to absorb the vibrations for your husband, your children, your mom, for your family, for your loved ones, because of all that publicity. This is not fair for you ‘, The actress noted. “I applaud you. I am glad to take care of yourself in the way you should »he said to Michelle Obama.

And it was not an easy path for Michelle, who faced an increased level of criticism during her term in the White House as the first – and, to date, only – black first lady.

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Both she and Henson confirm the fact that, as black women, they are accustomed to calling them “angry” or “bitter” with the slightest.

“The first thing a female journalist said was that I was bitter. That I was favored by my husband, just trying to tell the truth about how life is. And then they call you angry, you know, because you speak dynamically or passionately about something, even if they are in the context of great joy and pride. The first ” label ” they put us as black women is that we are angry »added the former First Lady of America.

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